Self-reliance is a modern sensibility, most particularly in urban areas where community ties are weaker and neighbours often receive little more than a passing nod. With the shock of a recession, came a reluctant acceptance that we need to rely on others for help from time to time, over-riding the preference to be self sufficient and independent. There is an emerging awareness of the vulnerability associated with isolation and with hardship and growing acceptance and openness to needing help from others. This becomes increasingly evident when children enter the picture.
For child-rearing moms, their networks of friends and family are a fundamental support without which life wouldn’t work. But it’s not all “take” – moms become active participants in a network of reciprocal support. It is a crucial time in their life where a strong support network is profoundly important.
Feeling that we have friends and relatives to rely on is separating us from our European counterparts. We feel more connected to one another and are a family – based society.